Your child isn’t necessarily misbehaving. They're behaving like a child with a body needing support would.

Hi, I'm Sabrina Novoa,
Holistic Behavior Specialist

Your child's behavior (what you can see) is almost always a reflection of what's happening inside (what no one sees, but everyone feels). One of those "things" you cannot see is their nervous system state.And once you learn even just a little bit about how nervous system states can impact behavior . . . behavior that has felt impossible to improve can begin to transform.

When aggression, tantrums, property destruction, withdrawal, rigidity, or explosive reactions have become part of everyday family life — or any other behavior your child engages in that has become more than you know how to handle — chronic stress is living in the home, too.And you, the parent living alongside the behavior, is almost always carrying an enormous load of stress. ❤️‍🩹

As the oft speaker of hard truths, I have several for you:If you're like most parents (me 10+ years ago), you want a quick fix and you want to focus on your child's behavior, not yours.This class won't deliver a quick fix because there is no quick fix out there.There's no fix because no one is broken.This masterclass will name and demystify the cycles of stress you're all looping in — the ones you're all living in without your conscious awareness.When we name these loops and you start giving yourself the support you need (something I will also be sharing in the masterclass), behavior can start to change in both subtle and big ways.

Some of the behaviors I help with:

  • Big reactions to small changes or demands... like when you say "no" or you ask them to stop doing something

  • Insisting things be done exactly their way, trying to control family routines, needing to win every game, getting upset if plans change, or demanding specific foods, cups, or clothing

  • Destroying toys or household items

  • Arguing about everything, ignoring you completely, or negotiating endlessly

  • Aggression... like hitting, kicking, pushing, and throwing things

  • Physical impulsivity... like pushing or bumping into people, climbing furniture or unsafe places, darting away in public places, grabbing toys from other children

  • Verbal, emotional, social, and decision impulsivity... like doing things immediately without considering consequences and saying “no” instantly and refusing to reconsider

  • Feeling like nothing you try works. That feeling can lead you to engage in behaviors you might later regret. I've been there. ❤️‍🩹

These are my "babies" (now 27 and 22) and the reason I do this work. When they were itty bitty, I didn't know that the home I grew up in (with all of the disconnection, chaos, and unmet needs) would become almost exactly the home I would raise them in.
Now, I know. And now I teach other parents to end the cycles.

About MoiFor more than 30 years, I've helped families understand
challenging behavior through the lens of behavioral science.With time, I came to understand . . .
Families don’t need more strategies.They need someone to help them understand the relationship between behavior, regulation, communication, and connection.

If what I shared resonates and you'd like to connect with me on how I can support you and your family one-on-one, schedule your free, 15-minute Fit Call ⤵️

During this free call (15 minutes), we'll determine your family's fit for my Beyond the Behavior Session (90 minutes). During that call, I work with clients to create Your Personalized Recommendations + Next Steps. This is a written summary of the key patterns we identified, what I recommend prioritizing, and your specific next steps so you can know exactly where to put your time and energy to create the change that brings relief.NOTE: Services are provided as parent coaching and behavioral consultation, not medical or psychological treatment.